Recently, abortion was a big issue in Poland and also in Korea. Above all, the president-to-be of America promised that there should be some form of punishment for those women seeking abortion. So, I feel like I need to write down my thoughts on abortion for my future reference because I may change my thoughts any time being human. If you are going to read it, please read it through (the language may be coarse and harsh).
Am I Pro-Life?
Yes, I am pro-life. I want to choose life always and any time when it is possible. I think any life is given by God, thus sacred. At the moment of conception (which is fertilised egg), it is human being though it does not look like a human yet. Each and every life is special and precious to God. And because of that, abortion is another name of murder. I admit that I may think this way because I’ve been failing to have a baby in almost five years’ marriage.
Should we ban the abortion?
No, we should not. Everybody has their own different stories. No one can judge others unless you are know-it-all like God. If I remember correct, there was an honour killing when I was in Canada. A Muslim immigrant father killed his own high school daughter because she was raped and got pregnant. If she could have gotten the abortion service easily (without letting her father know), she could have been living now.
In the ideal society, we may need abortion. But it is not like that. Any teen age single mother has great disadvantage for every single thing in every day of her life. How can anyone can force her to tolerate and endure such a horrible and terrible life?
Should we punish the women?
What the FUCK are you talking about? No woman goes for abortion for fun or pleasure. They are desperate and heavy-hearted. They need help, not punishment. Whole society, whole nation, and whole universe must rise up and help her.
If you must punish someone, then go after the man behind the pregnant woman, and punish him. As far as I know, there is only one Virgin Mary in the history. Except her, all and every woman cannot get pregnant by herself. Again, if you must punish someone, punish the careless dick-head guy.
It does not matter if it was rape, or unmarried lovers, or even if she is married and has her husband’s baby. If the woman considers abortion, she is a victim. What kind of savage society punishes the victim? We must help her minimise the impact of abortion.
What should we do then?
First, we must improve the society and civilise ourselves so that there would be no need for abortion. That includes educate men so that there would be no rape (even between married couple). And that also includes the society does not discriminate single mother, instead let her many and great benefits so that she does not even need to consider abortion.
Second, we’d better make the abortion service available until the human society becomes ideal and utopic. We must make the abortion service not just available but extremely easy to access and also highly confidential so that no one would know who got the consult or service. This confidentiality is especially important when it comes to the family (more for male family members). The service should be accessible through the internet, phone, text message, social media, in person, by mail and so on.
Third, we should form a special group (one big group for nationwide or each community can have their own) to think how and what can we do to help those women considering abortion and/or the ones who already had abortion. The discussion must be in depth and detail because hundred women have thousand stories and situations.
Forth and last, we should change the culture so that we must be more strict to men and be fairer to women. This society is too generous to the rapists and sexual offenders. It is especially true when it comes to white young educated men such as Brock Turner. He became free in just three months. According to the statistics, sexual crime or rape has the highest repeat ratio among all crimes, it is even higher than drug and alcohol addiction. I suggest that the law must enforce the punishment of cutting the penis. Without penis, they cannot repeat it and I guess this is the only solution.
In this sexist country, women are often considered only as sexual objects, and that would lead our society into more needs of abortion. We need to change the culture and general conception. We also stop blaming the rape victims. The victims are blamed unfairly such as: “You were wearing sexy.” “You were drunk.” “You walked at late night.” People must know all those don’t even make sense. All people including women must be safe no matter what they wear. All people including women must be safe no matter how much they are drunk. All people including women must be safe 24-7.
Think you bought a new Tesla, the super hot and super awesome electric car. And you parked it on the driveway because you have another car in the garage. And it was stolen. You reported it to the police and they say, “What? You left it on the driveway? Wow, you were asking the thieves to steal it! It’s entirely your fault and we’re not gonna do anything. Are you lunatic? Tesla on the driveway? Jerk.” This is the same situation when you blame a sexual victim. If one woman gets raped, it is not her fault. It is the rapist’s fault and we–the entire society–are all responsible.