Hannah and Je together

Monday, 28 November 2016

Punishment and Blessing

During the seminary days, I took some classes like God, Suffering and Evil.  I wanted to take Book of Job but couldn’t.  Though, I’ve got the professor’s brief lecture.  Well, I learned that not all bad things are punishment of what you did, and not all good things are reward of what you did.  Even though I know that thing, I guess it is basic human nature to think that way.

신학교를 다닐 때, 하나님, 고통 그리고 악이라는 수업을 들었다.  욥기 수업을 듣고자 했지만 듣지 못했고, 교수님의 개요 강의만 들었다.  어째든, 모든 나쁜 일이 벌은 아니고 모든 좋은 일이 상인 것은 아니라는 것을 배웠고, 또 그렇게 생각하고 있다.  그럼에도 불구하고 상과 벌로 생각하는 것이 인간의 본성인가 보다.

I remember that one of my friends in college one day came to me that his girlfriend was pregnant.  I just hit his head once and we worried together.  He said it was his first time having sex with his girlfriend.  And now, I am married for almost five years and all attempts to have a baby were not successful so far.

예전에 대학 다닐 때 친구 한 명이 여자친구가 임신했다고 찾아왔다.  한대 치고는 같이 걱정을 했었다.  친구 말로는 여자친구랑 처음 섹스해밨다고 한다.  그리고 지금 나는, 결혼 거의 5년차 되어 가는데 임신을 하고자 했던 모든 시도가 현재까지는 실패했다.

The other day I found myself thinking of my friend, “What had he done so good that he was blessed so much, having a baby?”  And about myself, “What have I done so wrong that I am getting this punishment, not getting a baby?”

얼마전에 문득 정신을 차려보니 이렇게 생각하고 있었다:  그 친구는 뭘 얼마나 잘했길래 원샷에 애가 생기는 축복을 받았을까?  그리고 나는 뭘 그렇게 잘못했길래 이렇게 애가 안생기는 벌을 받는 것일까?

Well, I cannot tell exactly what God has in mind.  But I just wish that this is not some kind of punishment.

내가 하나님의 심중을 정확히 아는 것이 아니기 때문에 알 수가 없지만, 다만 지금 내 처지가 하나님의 벌이 아니길 바랄 뿐이다.

Thursday, 10 November 2016

On Abortion

Recently, abortion was a big issue in Poland and also in Korea.  Above all, the president-to-be of America promised that there should be some form of punishment for those women seeking abortion.  So, I feel like I need to write down my thoughts on abortion for my future reference because I may change my thoughts any time being human.  If you are going to read it, please read it through (the language may be coarse and harsh).

Am I Pro-Life?

Yes, I am pro-life.  I want to choose life always and any time when it is possible.  I think any life is given by God, thus sacred.  At the moment of conception (which is fertilised egg), it is human being though it does not look like a human yet.  Each and every life is special and precious to God.  And because of that, abortion is another name of murder.  I admit that I may think this way because I’ve been failing to have a baby in almost five years’ marriage.

Should we ban the abortion?

No, we should not.  Everybody has their own different stories.  No one can judge others unless you are know-it-all like God.  If I remember correct, there was an honour killing when I was in Canada.  A Muslim immigrant father killed his own high school daughter because she was raped and got pregnant.  If she could have gotten the abortion service easily (without letting her father know), she could have been living now.

In the ideal society, we may need abortion.  But it is not like that.  Any teen age single mother has great disadvantage for every single thing in every day of her life.  How can anyone can force her to tolerate and endure such a horrible and terrible life?

Should we punish the women?

What the FUCK are you talking about?  No woman goes for abortion for fun or pleasure.  They are desperate and heavy-hearted.  They need help, not punishment.  Whole society, whole nation, and whole universe must rise up and help her.

If you must punish someone, then go after the man behind the pregnant woman, and punish him.  As far as I know, there is only one Virgin Mary in the history.  Except her, all and every woman cannot get pregnant by herself.  Again, if you must punish someone, punish the careless dick-head guy.

It does not matter if it was rape, or unmarried lovers, or even if she is married and has her husband’s baby.  If the woman considers abortion, she is a victim.  What kind of savage society punishes the victim?  We must help her minimise the impact of abortion.

What should we do then?

First, we must improve the society and civilise ourselves so that there would be no need for abortion.  That includes educate men so that there would be no rape (even between married couple).  And that also includes the society does not discriminate single mother, instead let her many and great benefits so that she does not even need to consider abortion.

Second, we’d better make the abortion service available until the human society becomes ideal and utopic.  We must make the abortion service not just available but extremely easy to access and also highly confidential so that no one would know who got the consult or service.  This confidentiality is especially important when it comes to the family (more for male family members).  The service should be accessible through the internet, phone, text message, social media, in person, by mail and so on.

Third, we should form a special group (one big group for nationwide or each community can have their own) to think how and what can we do to help those women considering abortion and/or the ones who already had abortion.  The discussion must be in depth and detail because hundred women have thousand stories and situations.

Forth and last, we should change the culture so that we must be more strict to men and be fairer to women.  This society is too generous to the rapists and sexual offenders.  It is especially true when it comes to white young educated men such as Brock Turner.  He became free in just three months.  According to the statistics, sexual crime or rape has the highest repeat ratio among all crimes, it is even higher than drug and alcohol addiction.  I suggest that the law must enforce the punishment of cutting the penis.  Without penis, they cannot repeat it and I guess this is the only solution.

In this sexist country, women are often considered only as sexual objects, and that would lead our society  into more needs of abortion.  We need to change the culture and general conception.   We also stop blaming the rape victims.  The victims are blamed unfairly such as: “You were wearing sexy.” “You were drunk.” “You walked at late night.”  People must know all those don’t even make sense.  All people including women must be safe no matter what they wear.  All people including women must be safe no matter how much they are drunk.  All people including women must be safe 24-7.

Think you bought a new Tesla, the super hot  and super awesome electric car.  And you parked it on the driveway because you have another car in the garage.  And it was stolen.  You reported it to the police and they say, “What? You left it on the driveway?  Wow, you were asking the thieves to steal it!  It’s entirely your fault and we’re not gonna do anything.  Are you lunatic?  Tesla on the driveway? Jerk.”  This is the same situation when you blame a sexual victim.  If one woman gets raped, it is not her fault.  It is the rapist’s fault and we–the entire society–are all responsible.

Sunday, 14 December 2008

[영어산책]grounded

In Canada or western culture, when kids were bad and did not listen to their parents, they would be grounded. But in Korea and Japan, the parents would shout to them ‘Get out of the house.’

This is because, not like the Canadians, Korean and Japanese culture is inner-centred one. Every body wants to be in a group. They feel safe in a company.

When the parents says that, that means that the kids would not be under the care of them and out of their protection.

사전적 의미로 grounded는 ground(땅)에서 파생되어 ~에 근거를 둔, 기초를 둔이라고 나온다.

하지만 하나 더 의미가 있는데, 땅에 묶여 있다는 뜻이다. 비행기가 이륙을 못하게 되는 것도 grounded라고 한다.

The plane has been grounded.

라고 하면 (어떤 사정에 의해 이륙 허가가 나지 않아) 비행기가 땅에 묶여 있다는 의미다.

또 하나 쓰이는 게 있는데, 바로 아이들이 징계받는 상태를 나타낸다.

한국이나 일본에서는 아이들을 혼낼 때, 정도가 지나치면 집 나가라고 하는데, 여기서는 반대로 못 나가게 한다. 영화에서 많이 봤을 것이다 – 아이들을 방에 가두는 장면.

광장 문화인 서양애들에게, 밖에 나가서 친구도 만나고 놀고 해야 하는데, 못나가게 하는 게 최악의 징계일  수 밖에 없다.

내가 이 단어를 처음 들은 게, 어떤 집에서 파티가 열려 놀러갔는데, 다 모였는데 오기로 한 집 가운데 딱 한 집만 안왔다. 그래서 왜냐고 물어봤더니.

Their kids are grounded.

라고 답변이 왔다. 애들이 지금 (징계로) 방에 갇혀있다는 의미.

원래 아이들과 부모가 같이 오기로 했는데, 아이들이 말을 안들어 일단 가두고 나니, 아이들만 집에 따로 놔둘 수 없는 법(어기면 부모가 구속될 수 있음)에 의해 부모마저 못오게 된 것이었다.

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